Expressed by: Cassandra Dennis
Freedom…. free mindset, free thinking, freedom in the way I speak, free in how I raised my sons. I even got fired a couple of times from a job, but I went back to work the next day like nothing happened. Man, I was a single parent with two boys to feed and clothe, I wasn’t trying to hear, “Cassandra, we’re going to have to let you go.” “Yeah, ok, see you tomorrow.” I came and clocked in the next day and went on with my shift. WOW, as I think back to the way I was in my early twenties and thirties, I have a longing for that younger me. I was bold in my thinking, I lived in motion, there was no such thing as procrastination; if I thought it, I moved forward in accomplishing whatever “it” was. Lack of sleep, lack of knowledge and lack of money did not hinder me in whatever I wanted to do. I didn’t dwell upon anyone’s opinion, nor did I seek it. Why, because another persons opinion was irrelevant to the process of me accomplishing what was at hand. Sooooo….. what happened?
Somewhere along the way my focus changed, I lost my way and I began seeking the opinion of others, and their opinions became the gospel for me. Why? At first I didn’t know. However, as I began to reflect on my life during a period of several years I realized once my sons became young men and I had equipped them to seek God and care for themselves my focus and my drive was gone. Everything I was previously doing I was doing for them. So now the question I asked myself was, “Cassandra, who are you, what do you truly like, do you remember your dreams and do you have the unction to accomplish them for yourself?” The answer was, “no!”
Even though I had not been married long, being married became a chore, so I made it into a project for me. I began to mimic my parents marriage, tv show marriages and layered in the information from marriage ministry, where we served. BIG BIG BIG mistake. I taught myself to wear masks. I sought the opinions of others and took their opinion of me and dissected myself down to a person I didn’t know and didn’t like. So I created a walk-in closet of masks; and depending upon the occasion I wore the mask that allowed me to blend in and to become apart of the crowd. What a mess.
Well needless to say, my husband and I began having challenges in our marriage, infidelity, control issues, and so much more. I spiraled into depression and fear became a big part of my life. From that time up until this point, approximately 7 years, I’ve allowed fear to paralyze me from living in my purpose, including even seeking my purpose for living. For the past three years I have slowly begun a sincere relationship with God and an honest relationship with myself. I’ve gone through a purging of relationships, masks and emotional bondage, PAINFULLLL!! But it is what it is, it’s life and life is a journey of good and bad experiences. It’s how I decide to live out and share those experiences that allows me to empower others as I am empowered.
Is fear still there? Of course, but I have made the decision to live a life of kinetic energy, in motion regardless what’s over the horizon. This renewed me has new inspiration, bold dreams and the excitement to accomplish it all, with my husband and our family. Keep your eyes open, some of what’s to be revealed may inspire you to inspire others. PEACE…