We must remember, this is not a race and we all proceed at our own pace.
Expressed by: Cassandra Dennis
We are 120 days into 2017 and many of us are off and running with our new year resolutions. Many have started businesses, joined gyms, opened investment accounts, applied for a passport, working on being debt free, downloaded self-help books and so much more.
Or some of us have lost our motivation and given up or started and stopped so many times that we are disappointed with ourselves. We must remember, this is not a race and we all proceed at our own pace. The reasons for setting out to accomplish our goals this year must be personal to us; not because someone believes or feels we should do something. Our motivation must come from within.
Go back to your goal or get it done list and do this for me:
- Review your list and decide is this something you want to accomplish or something someone else wanted you to accomplish, and strike through those goals that you know you will not put forth the effort to accomplish.
- For the goals left on your list write out to the side your reason for wanting to accomplish this goal, and write out empowering key words or quotes, build a musical play list or audio books or inspirational speeches to listen to when your’re running out of steam.
- Write out a mini plan for obtaining that goal. Remember, without a plan you have already planned to fail.
- Place a picture next to each goal. If it’s losing weight, put a leaner picture of you or a particular outfit you want to get into; if it’s a trip put a picture of that place and your passport next to it, now you get the picture.
- Each day refer to your “get it done list” and encourage yourself with what you have written and your visual aids.
Now, get moving we both have work to do.
We begin to easily judge and form an opinion…
Expressed by: Cassandra Dennis
Root: a base or support; a primary source; an origin; an essential part or element.
When we see a tree that’s been uprooted for whatever reason, the many roots that were securing the tree in the ground are exposed. The roots unlike the trunk, branches and foliage of the tree aren’t pretty or uniquely designed; they are caked with mud, soil, insects and even the roots or vines of other nearby trees may have intertwined with that tree, but they serve a great purpose. It is the roots of a tree that invades nearby areas to create a strong foundation for the trunk of a tree that may grow to over 100 feet tall and support the weight of several branches and foliage. The roots are also responsible for feeding the tree with the nutrients from the surrounding environment.
Our lives as humans are like the tree. How we were raised, our environment as a child and our experiences are our roots. It is those roots that feed how we perceive or understand the words or actions of another human being. It is those roots that mold who we are, how we respond verbally, physically and emotionally.
Sometimes the many details and distractions of life overwhelm us to the point that we bluntly address the surface issues of ourselves and others. We begin to easily judge and form an opinion (we all have and socially share one these days) about the actions or words of others, because we don’t want to take the time or energy it requires to address what’s below the surface; the beautiful or beastly ideas, disjointed, intertwined, unsubstantiated information, traditions and fears that fuel our thoughts, decisions, words and actions.
At some point in order to bring about continuous healing, growth and a renewed mindset to humanity as a whole we must:
- decide to be transparent with each other
- refocus our words, time, energy and love to find out what’s feeding our behavior
- expose and address the root of the behavior
- ask questions that helps us to evaluate and redirect the unhealthy behavior to a more positive mindset that will lead to productive behavior.
What’s below your surface that may be hindering you from healthy, productive, joyful relationships or from obtaining the goals you seek each year? Get to the root of it with productive help from others.